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Learning To Live In An Unscripted World

These days many of us, for personal and professional reasons, are searching for ways to respond more effectively to the new challenges, surprising discoveries, and radical disruptions that the 21st Century is bringing into our lives. We’re casting about for ways to better understand the complex new truths that just recently have started to complicate our daily lives. Challenges like massive immigration problems, intractable ethnic conflicts, and catastrophic weather events, all of which are confronting us with startling, often incomprehensible realities and choices.

Here at TLO, I believe we’re all trying to interpret and respond to these new 21st Century challenges using old beliefs, life-scripts, and behavioral routines that we learned sitting in our mom’s lap. If, for a moment, we actually stopped and thought about the beliefs and values we learned from our parents, we’d realize that we are using old, outmoded family scripts to respond to these new 21st Century challenges. This mismatch — the one between the choices our old belief systems are leading us to, and the more complicated and confusing set of choices that our new world is asking us to consider — is bringing new questions into our lives. Questions like “Where do we turn when the world no longer works the way we think it should?” and “What do we do when the old rules no longer apply?”

TLO’s Developmental Coaching services

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TLO's answer for this ‘mismatch’ are three new coaching programs: — Developmental Dialogues, Developmental Launch Programs, and our Developmental Coaching Programs. These three programs are choices that are designed for those who are either curious about, interested in, or committed to discovering how to live more freely and effectively in what, at this point in time, is truly an unscripted world. In descending order, each of these programs are for the curious, the interested, and the committed. Each of these program is more comprehensive and complete than the one that precedes it:

Developmental Dialogues is two or three introductory conversations. These conversations are designed to identify the aspects of your old worldview and your associated beliefs that aren’t sophisticated enough for today’s complexities. In these dialogues, we work to identify and describe the problematic aspects of your current modes of thinking. When completed, our dialogues produce a personal Worldview and Mindset Map that describes for you the basic outlines of your current worldview and the developmental challenges that are essential for you, given you want to develop a new view of the world that matches its current complexities. In addition, these dialogues are designed to satisfy your curiosity about what the 21st Century’s new worldview looks like, and what learning journeys you will need to launch in order to develop the new worldview and mindsets that are called for.

Developmental Launch Programs is either a one day workshop or a series of four dialogues spread out over a seven week period. This launch program is designed for those who are interested in developing a deeper understanding of the demands involved in transforming their orders of consciousness. In either the one day or the four dialogue format, we do four things: (1) Map, in developmental terms, your worldview and mindset challenges and opportunities; (2) Describe the particular learning skills you need to develop to complete your transformational efforts, (3) Examine the kinds of real-world learning experiments you’ll need to launch if you’re going to develop and strengthen your mindsets and modes of thinking; and (4) Produce a Personal Growth Map, which describes the specific developmental efforts you’ll need to pursue if you want to create results that are essential to your personal and professional development.

Developmental Coaching Programs is a full-fledged developmental coaching effort. It’s designed for those who know they want to discover the pieces and parts of their own mindsets that are mismatched with the complex new demands they’re seeing in their lives. As such, it includes all the work done in our Developmental Dialogues and Launch Programs, and also incorporates the self-directed learning experiments you’ll need to actually realize your key growth and development priorities. Each Developmental Coaching Program is jointly designed to help you actually develop the new mindsets, modes of thinking and feeling, and the associated skillsets that will allow you accomplish your particular developmental goals. With this in mind, we work side by side in 6 month increments to discover your old outdated family-of-origin belief systems, your instinctive threat responses, and your embedded biases and stereotypes, in order to replace this old architecture with the new worldview, mindsets, and modes of thinking you’re looking to develop

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In each of these programs, we work together to create a realistic understanding of the complexities that are challenging you and the kinds of conscious transformations that these new complexities are demanding. Side by side, whether we’re in a Dialogue Session, a Launch Program, or a Developmental Coaching Program, we work together to discover your old outdated family-of-origin belief systems, your instinctive threat responses, and the ways in which you come to know what you know about the difficult and challenging situations you’re finding yourself in. Most importantly, we support you in creating the new meaning-making mindsets and skillsets that are essential to your growth and development. Just below is a link a link that will let me know you’d like to schedule a free exploratory conversation to talk about your developmental needs and interests. Take the step…